When people close to you die…it’s a surreal feeling. Almost like you left earth for a minute. I wondered “Is this real? Am I dreaming?” August 11,2010, a beautiful sunny Thursday, I sat in some stale staff lunch room in the middle of Elmhurst Hospital waiting...and waiting. I waited five hours for this surgeon to tell me…my mama was gone. When he told me I didn’t necessarily hear him but I saw his mouth move. I just sat there in a daze…I didn’t know what to do. So I did nothing but blink. I had to digest the truly unbelievable…the unthinkable. What the hell was I going to do now?
I was 22,no job, no education and was practically depressed because I felt like my life had no direction. I didn’t cry at first, I was numb. All I could think about is my circumstances; a house that was in foreclosure, sky high bills and my 102 yr old grandfather that needed 24 hr care. AND my mama is gone?! What the hell was I going to do?
I honestly had no clue. It was the most devastating time in my life. As they say these things happen in three’s and that became a true statement for my life. Two days after Thanksgiving my granny passed away from stomach cancer. It was yet another major emotional blow. Just when I was getting my barring’s together and decided to enroll in Beauty School. Right before Christmas my grandfather passed away, at this point I was just plain ole tired! I felt more alone then ever! I’m quite sure my tear ducks had dried up by then! I had lost my entire foundation, everything I once knew was gone AND I was practically homeless. What else did I have to lose?
Hair is something that I have always done, it came natural to me! I was the neighborhood/ traveling braider! When I had nothing left I knew that was one skill I could fall back on! January 2011, I started beauty school at Mrs. Roberts Beauty Academy. My first day of beauty school was so dope! I remember this day so clearly because it changed how I viewed the beauty industry entirely! It was the day I met my mentor Niki Smith! We took a tour of Avalon Industries, it was AHMMAAZZIINNGG!!!! We talked to chemists, executives and brand ambassadors! We saw the test salon, the huge drums where they mixed conditioners and relaxers. It opened a whole new world outside of the chair and changed my views forever!
By November of that year I graduated and received my license! It was a bittersweet moment for me. I was happy because I finally felt like I accomplished something on my own! But I was sad, She wasn't there to tell me how proud she was for or her fav “ Go Queen!” I don’t know about everybody else but my mama has always been there! To not have her here for the most important times of my life I felt cheated! But I didn't let that get me down... I used it to push me to harder then before!
In a world full of misery, hurt and confusion…I found clarity, strength and self worth. HAIR is where I found my passion, purpose and a life to call my own. The day I became a Hair Stylist is the day my life began! The adventure started and I’ve been rolling ever since! When I lost Everything... it gave me more then I could have dreamed of! Hair truly saved my life…